Couples Therapy and Treatment
Problems Common to Couples:
- Stress bringing out the worst in each other, causing a chain reaction of triggering each other
- Feeling distant, frustrated and disconnected
- “We don’t know how to communicate”
- Inability to forgive past hurts, betrayal or thoughtlessness
- Unsure of commitment
- Arguments that recycle and go nowhere
People sometimes avoid seeking Couples Treatment because they secretly fear they will be the one who is blamed for the problems.Of course, with an effective, experienced Couples Therapist, such a scenario would never occur; no finger is pointed at you or your partner. Rather, it is the relationship and interaction between the couple that is regarded as the “patient” whose healing requires the teamwork of the therapist and both partners.
If you do experience a couples therapist blaming one of you for the problems, please politely excuse yourself and seek one of the therapists on this website. That therapist would only become part of the solution. You need someone to help you find solutions mutually good for both of you.
Our specialists are experienced in traditional couples counseling plus they approach Couples Therapy with a framework that includes the essential foundation of trauma recovery: the way people react to one another is powerfully influenced by past experiences. This is an asset with couples because trauma therapies can help to cut through the fog of tension and find the past experiences, fears, hurts and resentments that have put a wedge between you. It can help in the process of promoting understanding and letting go of what’s past.
Sometimes couples discover, much to their amazement, surprising reasons their partner “pushes my buttons.” It often has more to do with difficult experiences which you had prior to even meeting your partner. Today, when something in your present environment is reminiscent of that harmful or dangerous event, strong emotions from the past can be triggered without your even being aware of it.
When people say “it pushes my buttons,” they are, in part, indicating that a memory has been stimulated and has triggered a survival response (to fight or flight).
When couples are locked in a pattern in which each person is triggered by the other and cannot see a way out, that impasse is the cue to seek the help you and your loved one deserve.
There is work to be done to change your relationship and we EMDRIA-Certified EMDR Therapists specializing in Couples and Marriage Therapy are here to help! Please call today.
