Part 2 – of a series on Recognizing, Living with and Resolving Trauma
Thinking of suicide leads to many thoughts that are disturbing, scary and risky. It helps to look at our whole picture, and ask for help. Consider these thoughts:
For the purpose of understanding our own feeling state and energy level, it is paramount to understand that our energy is contagious. We transmit our energy with emotion through chemical and electromagnetic processes. We truly affect those around us and are under the influence of other’s feeling states and energy levels. We regularly use the following statements as a way of recognizing how much we are tuned in with others: “Are you feeling me”? “I feel your pain”. “You look like I feel”. “You look awful”. “You look radiant”. As much as we recognize the unpleasantness of bad breath, a baby’s diaper or someone passing gas, we also notice the feelings and energy of those near-by and even those who are far away, but are close with emotionally or are related to.
To be in sound emotional health, it helps to be in the company of other’s who are also sound emotionally. The adage of “we are what we eat and we are who our friends are” is a colloquialism, yes. But it supports our experience of being influenced energetically by others. Have you ever wondered why a hotdog tastes better at a picnic or at a ball game? Or why music is more enjoyable at a concert than it is in your car or at home – it’s the positive energy from others in those places. Everyone is resonating in that engaging atmosphere.
Recent research from Bielefeld University reports that “plants can draw an alternative source of energy from other plants”. Researchers believe that this discovery will support the same finding in humans – we exchange energy with others. The study posits that “our physical bodies are like sponges, soaking up the environment. The human organism is very much like a plant, it draws needed energy to feed emotional states and this can essentially energize cells or cause increases in cortisol and catabolize cells depending on the emotional trigger.”
This energy can be vibrating in a positive resonance or in a negative dissonance. The same way a ripe strawberry can tantalize the taste buds or a rotten strawberry can make you nauseous. We have to be mindful and aware of the condition of those around us and what type of energy they are transmitting and receiving (sending out and taking from us).
The Risk of Suicide
Many traumatized, depressed and suicidal people are confused by what they feel. We never discount what people feel, but we may gain understanding by becoming aware that the feelings and energy may not be our own. Some of the negativity we experience may originate in our past, or in the stress of those around us. By learning healthy boundaries and limiting our exposure to the negative forms of energy we can reduce our level of desperation and discomfort significantly. It will require change and change is generally not exciting, but it is worth strongly considering.
In the stronghold of depression, PTSD and suicidal thoughts, surround yourself with the positive energy from those who have some to spare. Ask for their support. Most positive people will be happy to “share the love”. It’s easy to tell them from those who are suffering and in misery as we know that “misery loves company” and that company we call a “pity party”. So whose company (ENERGY) do you want to keep?
We advise to also ask for the support of EMDR Therapy, which can clear the traumas that may have made life overwhelmingly painful. Please link to Jeff Smiths profile page on this website. Jeff is an experienced EMDR Therapist.
The reference lists five energy tools to use to clear your space and prevent energy drains while releasing people’s energy:
Jeffrey W. Smith, MFT, AC