Feelings State Examples for FSAP
by Dana Terrell, LCSW, EAC
These samples of the unique feeling states people experienced during some of their most exciting or intense experiences with their additions, have been found to help in understanding what we are searching for when your EMDR therapist strives to identify a feeling state with you.
All we can do is do our best to identify it. Then we try the protocol. If the feeling state connection to the addiction doesn’t reduce soon, we need to work again to better “nail” the feeling state.
Also, please be assured that the feeling state is not bad, and you don’t have to give it up. In fact, when the connection to the addictive behavior or substance is reduced, you will find more and better (less negative side effects) ways to feel that feeling state. (That is the Future Template part of the protocol).
Note: See the variety of feeling states involved in various addictions. Sometimes people seek the same feeling state in a variety of addictions. One example is set off in bold to illustrate this point.
ADDICTION FEELING STATE
Sex Addiction the guys admire my “conquest”
I’m powerful–strippers “perform” for me
I’m safe, don’t have to perform
(at massage parlor, with masseause)
Getting over on women/men
Pride in my ability
Smoking Euphoria of success plus…
connection with buddies
Looking glamorous and grownup
Gambling Winning against the odds, I can do anything
I can fit in with the guys (and Dad)
I’m a winner (always felt like a loser)
Impersonating a Police Officer Getting Over on others
Shopping Addiction I’m successful with high status
Thrill of new toy!
Food Addiction Connected with happy, loving people
Excited with so many choices
I can do whatever I want
Honor and sooth my anger
Joy and Ecstacy
Hoard good food! (Mom a terrible cook)
©2013 Dana Terrell, LCSW, EAC
EMDR Therapists who have taken Robert Miller’s FSAP Addictions Protocol Workshop have permission to use this for their clients.